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I'm a 45 year old mother of 3 boys. I live in a beautiful old house that needs a lot of TLC with my youngest son and 2 dogs. I am working hard at keeping myself healthy and fit by working out and doing a spot of running. I'm a creative person and am passionate about keeping traditional skills alive. I cook, knit, bake, garden, preserve, read, write and am now learning to spin and quilt. Oh and I sometimes swear.....

Monday, October 4, 2010

First steps

Well, I've gone public with the news that I am now a separated woman. Someone referred to me as being single again but I don't think that's really quite the case. Single implies that I'm available for a relationship and maybe even looking for one but that certainly ain't the case!

Telling people has been quite difficult. Obviously I had time to get used to the idea before starting to speak to our friends and family. Some of their reactions have been quite surprising!!! People have been shocked (hell, so were we!) but sometimes when people don't know what to say they say the most stupid things. One day I'll write them all down!

Already people are avoiding my eye, clearly not knowing what to say. And some people haven't contacted me even though I know they know. Just tell me you don't know what to say. Or give me a hug. I've done my crying so am unlikely to dissolve into a flood of tears and embarrass anyone.

So this blog will be a record of my journey into the great unknown. Don't worry I won't get too deep or too personal. And I certainly won't be slagging anyone off. I was married to a good man for a long time and he's someone I want to keep in my life. That's the bit that will be hard as we find a way to create a relationship that works for us and our children.

A very dear friend suggested I write a list of all the things I would like to do. That's been a very exciting and illuminating exercise! And if I'm honest a wee bit scary. The possibilities are endless.

Stick with me as I play around with the blog getting it the way I like. I'm going to try to post every day. I want to be able to look back one day and think "Wow, look how far I've come!"

See you soon

Ali x


Peter Duggan said...

Sometimes when people don't know what to say they say they don't know what to say. So, having said that once already, I'm just going to say it again...

I don't know what to say! Quite stunned really... nearly commented on FB that it's a bolt from the blue, but thought that might be the wrong thing if signs had been missed and those (most?) of us caught completely off guard should have known that things weren't right. However, said it now and hope it's not the wrong thing!


The Sunday Adventure Club said...

Jeez that took me by surprise.
I read a book recently by Aron Ralston, he's the climber who had to cut his own arm off to save his life. Sometimes the right decisions are the hardest ones of all. Hope you and Ian are both ok.

Anonymous said...

Your journey into the unknown will be like a huge big rollercoaster, just strap yourself in and go along for the ride Ali. Lots of ups n lots of downs but hang in there.

Karen D XX